Taking The Trash Out of Romance

For the past four days I’ve been without a computer. Old faithful (my computer) was getting over heated and decidedly one evening while I was in the middle of writing a scene to simply shut down.

I’m very blessed, however, my dear husband had installed a home network a few weeks earlier that keeps all my files backed up. So I may have lost that one scene due to over heating, but at least the entire manuscript wasn’t lost like yesterday’s garbage.

Speaking about garbage, tomorrow is my weekly home blessing and day I put out my trash in the evening for pick up the next day.

I admit I’ve been a little behind on writing without a computer and three kids, plus snow days the past few weeks.  I’ve been trying to play catch up all day. I haven’t made it to taking out the trash yet, but as the thought of taking out the trash comes to my mind I think not only of the things I dispose of daily in my trash can, but books. 

Did you know that some people refer to romance novels as “trashy books” or “trashy novels”? Have you ever had someone come up to you and say, “Oh you read those trashy books.” 

“No, I don’t,” is the usual reply I give someone with such a comment. Not all books are trashy, and many people have formed a misconception that all romance novels are nothing but pages upon pages of sex.  Perhaps this misconception comes from the variety of different kinds of romance novels on the market today.

There is an old saying that goes, “another man’s trash is another man’s treasure”, perhaps the same goes for romance novels. I doubt, however, that you’ll run into a romance author who appreciates their hard work referred to as “trash”.

I think Lori Wilde says it best in her online course Romance Writing Secrets when she says, “While physical expressions of love are essential elements of romance novels, the stories are not about sex. They’re about intimacy.”

Webster defines intimacy as a close and warm friendship, familiarity, a feeling of growing close.

A good romance novel not only pulls the reader in closer to the characters, but also builds intimacy between the characters that evolves into a love relationship.

So the next time you’re looking to take out the trash, I encourage you to pick up an Inspirational Romance instead. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised. I know I did the first time I was introduced to this genre of romance.

Having no computer for the past few days I’ve recently picked up and began reading Missy Tippens book His Forever Love. So far so good. :) It’s definately a keeper. I’m hoping to finish it in a day or two.

Oh, I almost forgot…I have to go take out the trash!

Published in: on February 23, 2010 at 1:48 am  Leave a Comment  
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Valentine’s Day

Yesterday was Valentine’s day.

As I went from store to store, running errands before the next big snow storm hits us in north central Pennsylvania, I was amazed by the lines of people I saw, and the general participation on this particular day.

Williamsport, was budding with romance.

My first stop yesterday was the craft store, where I found lines of people taking advantage of Valentine’s Day coupons and sales. I too, had the same thing in mind. As the recent snow falls have left me to amuse three small children for several days at a time, I needed back up. Crafts are always a good way to keep kids occupied, happy, and using their imaginations in a great way.

My second stop was the pet store. Years ago, before we were married, my husband bought me a fish tank. After all this time we’ve kept it, but recently a few of our fish had become deceased. My four year old son picked out three fish, which I’m sad to say only one made it to the tank. It was very dishearting that one fish died before we got home and another passed away during the night.  At least we have three goldfish for the time being. The one my son named “Henry” still lives.

Then my third stop was the grocery store. It’s amazing how many people need to stock up on bread, milk, and eggs before the calling of another snow fall. Except it wasn’t bread most people where after. It was the $1.99 bunches of flowers.  As I grabbed my groceries, I too couldn’t resist the pink rose buds, and even my son reminded me “We have to get flowers, Mom” we couldn’t leave the store without them.

As we selected our delicate pink rose buds a woman beside us stood selecting out a variety of colors and left the store behind us carrying a dozen bunches of flowers. I heard her tell another woman that she planned on selling them downtown for $2 a piece. Smart business woman.

My last stop was the promised dollar store, where everything is a one dollar. It’s the promise land of all great things gained for a buck where my kids are concerned. My son, especially was excited.  As we stood in line to pay, a gentleman before us was paying for his teddy bear, chocolates, and a single bud silk rose. As he proceeded to pay, he explained how he planned to put the chocolates and rose in the hands of the teddy bear and surprise his girlfriend. How romantic right?  My son and I walked out with a turtle that goes in the bathtub. 

On the way home I drove downtown. We passed the cinema, whose line was out the door and around the corner with movie goers. Down the same street a little further is the community theater, where today the symphony orchestra was playing. Several men stood outside the doors holding bunches of three roses wrapped in green paper. I assume they were waiting for their dates, as several more couples walked down the sidewalk, hand and hand, toward the theater. As I turned up another street, drawing closer to home, I witness a man packing suitcases into a SUV. 

I couldn’t help thinking that obviously he need to go visit the woman from the grocery store with the roses. That or the dollar store for a box of chocolates, then maybe he’d be inside the comforts of home snuggled up with his wife or girlfriend rather than packing his bags on a day like this. 

Later in the evening when the groceries were put away, supper cleared from the table, and children bathed and put to bed, I began my own special ritual of Valentine’s Day. I grabbed a bottle of sparkling cranberry. Dipped some strawberries in chocolate, and cuddled up beside my hubby as we watched a movie on my laptop computer in bed.

One bite of the chocolate though, spoiled the moment. Saying it was bitter sweet would be an understatment, it was simply bitter. Not being much of a baker or even a cook, I never thought to add sugar to the baker’s chocolate. My sweet husband that he is, didn’t say a word. He took the strawberries back to the kitchen and scrapped off the chocolate.

Ironic that the movie we watched, “Julie & Julia” was all about food, cooking, and changing the lives of women in their romantic relationships with their husbands. I’d recommend it to anyone. definitely five stars.

And thus my friends, sums up Valentine’s day in the Lower Household. 

May today be just as special as yesterday. :)

Published in: on February 15, 2010 at 12:54 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Inspiring Romance #27 – Appreciate Him

Each year I listen to those around me grumble about what they didn’t get on Valentine’s Day.

Even before I sat down to write this post today I went about a little research and came across and article that instead of listing the most romantic things you could, it listed the worst things that couples did on Valentine’s Day. After reading the article, I got confused.

It seemed the author, must not have ever had a day where they felt appreciated, let alone loved. According to the article the worst thing you could do was go out to dinner. Reasons that were listed included bad food, over crowded establishment, and the expense of a disaster waiting to happen.

You would think that staying home would be better than going out, but again the article says not.

Along with flowers, chocolate, and holiday cards, nothing seemed to be the RIGHT thing to do in order to properly celebrate this special day. After all, what is there to do right?

Being a romantic at heart, I had to sit and give all these things great thought. As I turned to my husband, he said to me, “what should it matter? If you show love everyday, then Valentine’s day has no more special meaning tomorrow than it does the next day to those who show their affection.”

So surprise him, today and everyday.

Appreciate him.

Don’t harp, hound, or whine when he first gets home. Prepare him a meal and sit down with him at the table. Ask him how his day went and be his #1 fan. Let him put his feet up, and curl up beside him. Remember when your mad and in the midst of an argument that in God’s eyes he is one with you.

Tell him you love him, often and without doubt, even when it seems he’s not listening to you – he probably is. Compliment him on all the good things you like, the services he performs around the house, and how he deals with the rest of the family.

Simply appreciate the one you love this day and everyday.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Published in: on February 13, 2010 at 2:33 am  Leave a Comment  

Inspiring Romance #26- A Box Full of Kisses

A few months ago, during the holiday season I heard a story shared one Sunday morning.

The story goes that some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight. He became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree.

Never the less, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.”

He was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger flared again when he found the box was empty. He yelled at her, “Don’t you know when you give someone a present, there’s supposed to be something inside it?”

The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and said, “Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty, I blew kisses into the box. All for you, Daddy.”

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness. It is told that the man kept that gold box by his bed for years and whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses from our children, friends, family, or God. There is no more precious possession anyone could hold.

With Valentines’ day drawing near, why not exchange that box of chocolates for a box full of kisses, and give it to that special someone you hold dear. Maybe they too will keep their box near and take out an imaginary kiss when they are feeling discouraged.